There are many gems in Esoteric Buddhist practice and I wish I had time to explore them all. The following is from The Tantric Mysticism of Tibet by John Blofeld.
At the superficial level, the practice (of Yielding) is that of keeping the high goal in mind at all times night and day. For example, while eating, the adept equates his own body with the body with the ultimate goal by visualizing it as a diety and mentally converts each mouthful of food into an offering that must be made with reverence…
For me this sounds alot like mindfulness with just a smidge of reverence added in for flavor. In the case of this visualization, you are mindful because you are placing a reverence upon the food that you are ingesting. Similar, in Zen monasteries, the eating of meals is highly ritualized and is, in and of itself, a reflection on and practice of the Dharma. Incidental or mundane events in your daily life become ritualized. Visualizations, for me, are like adding sugar to your tea or cream to your coffee. Some like the acidic tang and others like to sweeten it up.
Either way, it depends upon mood and atmosphere.
From the same text…
During sexual intercourse, he withdraws his mind from his immediate environment, equates his urge with the urge for Liberation and directs the force of it to his longing for the goal.
Ok, esoteric Buddhism says some crazy shit sometimes. First off, when one rarely gets laid why, OH WHY, would you want to withdraw from intercourse mentally? Now if you are working with a visualization and say your visualizing deity is Green Tara, then I can see this process working (maybe).
Now if it is this dude?
I think I may have a little bit of trouble sealing the deal. And I am certain my wife isn’t going to appreciate the blood-curdling screams that I am sure to be releasing. I mean the guy is on fire, has a whip and a sword. Not particularly going to set the mood (for me or her).
Back to the text…
…he transmutes his perceptions so that, while his physical action proceeds in the normal way, his mind functions in a different dimension: Doer, act and object are all visaulized in abstract forms not closely related to their physical counterparts; the only links between them are the force of desire and the bliss of enjoyment.
*sigh*… I may just stick with meditating and will have plenty of time for it when I explain to my wife that I am either focusing on the green chick from Star Trek or what basically looks like something out of Lord of the Rings.
I can put it into simpler terms – Practice every aspect of your life as if you were in a temple. Provide the reverence you would show at a mountain hermitage to the daily movements of your day. Don’t disengage from them. Rather engage them fully. Sweet tea or bitter; it is still tea.
Or even simpler – Buddhism – Like Orc-sex but with mantras.
Thanks to my Dharma Drinking Buddy Don for bring up this delightful aspect…
The green Tara has a couple of hot sisters: white and red Taras with different mudras and aspects. Tantric Buddhist sex is not mentioned much in Blofeld but if you are interested, you can get a book on the practice of Vajrayogini, an uber hot red diety that wants you to have sexual fantasies about her. [seriuosly, but you have to die during the visualization…. (oh crap)]
Indeed, Don! Tough practice but what a way to go!